When Things Are Just Not Working Out

It's just not my day.

Have these days turned into weeks, months, and years? Are things just not going in the direction you've been hoping? Then there is this one simple thing you can do to turn things around.

When we are stuck in a rut, it feels like the world is against us. It's as if all areas of life have some issue or other. This, dear reader, happens to all of us. What you are feeling is real. We tend to get into the vicious circle of negativity, and it is extremely difficult to get out of it.

The problem starts when we try to resolve the situation we are in. We pour in our thoughts, feelings, and energies to solve the issues that are plaguing our lives and dedicate ourselves to overcoming them. This problem-solution approach is good, you are tackling the issue and not just giving up.

But you see, by doing this, we are also resisting change. We are trying to keep our life in control. We are hard-wired to keep things they once were. We thrive in familiarity and subconsciously resist change.

So how do you break that chain of negativity, afterall?

So try this instead. Try not to think about the problems you are trying to solve for some time. Take a break. Get some space. Once you are able to relook at the issues from a different perspective, ask yourself this: "What am I fighting? Can I build something new instead?" For instance, if you are trying to lose weight, then don't try to fight those pounds. Build new habits. Eat better, sleep on time, work out. Build these new habits and focus all your attention on those, not on fighting your weight.

This approach will help you break out of the vicious cycle of negativity and refocus on building something new. Real change happens when we focus on realizing our potential rather than dwelling on our past. Let's embrace change and create a beautiful life for ourselves.