People Make Time for What They Want - Why You Should Too
Are you dishing out excuses for not being present or on the receiving end? Either way, you need to read this article, “People make time for what they want.”
You have probably encountered this phrase online "people make time for what they want." The statement mostly shows relationship priorities. Does your loved one love you if they do not make time for you? If they cared, they would show up because actions speak louder than words.
Society judges harshly the hardworking parent looking to increase their earnings for their family than the stay-at-home spouse spending all their time with loved ones. Similarly, a 25-year-old chasing their dream may be deemed shallow for not prioritizing marriage or children.
We've all learned a thing or two in life. But time teaches us important lessons. Here are some things that time has taught us, time and again (pun intended).
lifeism.coPerhaps, it is the permanence of time spent or time's flitting nature that people attach so much value to quantity, not quality time. While the interpretation is valid, its implications get overstretched most times. A parent prioritizing provision should not be deemed unloving over one that stays at home. They are both showing care and sacrifice. Unfortunately, judgment gets placed on the nature of their action and not the time invested.
Go for What You Want
People making time for what they want is not a bad thing. Time is ticking. It is on no one's side. Instead of gilt-tripping loved ones chasing their passions and hobbies, go after yours too.
- Pursue that career - part of the sacrifice will be less time with loved ones. However, you can still have moments of quality time with friends and relatives. It may be a blessing in disguise because the rarity of time spent together increases the preciousness of the event.
- Learn a hobby or two - life is about making the most of what you have. Therefore, live a little. Enjoy your gifts. Pursue that talent. Sing, dance, become a poet, skate, ski, or write. You never know where life will lead you with your newfound passion.
- Open that business - do not be afraid of life getting busy. You may miss out on living. Dare to dream and explore your potential in things. You never know how good you are unless you try.
Know Where to Invest Your Time
When the tables get turned, and you find yourself in a relationship that is not suitable, you would want out too. If you and a significant other are a mismatch, they may not be as invested as much as you in the relationship. It is okay to leave an undeserving partner. You will only bear the burden of commitment if you stay.
You cannot assume that love equates to people being ever-present. If you want a significant other at your beck and call, hire someone. Remember, your partner is also human. They get tired, emotionally exhausted, indifferent, jittery, and misinterpret things just like you. Do not be quick to dismiss their time allocation in your relationship without understanding their side.
Uphold The Golden Rule
The golden rule states, do unto others what you want them to do to you. Before analyzing your partner's degree of commitment, find out if yours matches or exceeds theirs. Humans tend to prioritize themselves first. It is the reason we applaud selfless people like Mother Teresa of Calcutta.
The bottom line is that you will demand more for yourselves and justify dispending less to others. Selfishness breeds competition. In nature, it is known as survival for the fittest. Your interests will always come first. Instead of judging your friends and loved ones for making time for their priorities, realize you are doing the same too.
Know Your Worth
You do not always have to take scraps. It is okay to leave when someone has shown you beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are not interested. When you throw pearls at pigs, they will trample on them because they do not know the value of the precious commodity.
- Know when to walk away from friends and loved ones who do not see your value
- Learn to give the same energy back. You do not have to over-invest your time in people who will not do the same for you
- Be content with knowing their opinion of you
- Refuse to let relationships define your value
- It is better to be alone than with a crowd that does not esteem your worth
When someone devalues you by abusing your time, that is nature's way of saying you are incompatible. Eventually, you will find your niche and sour like the ugly duckling. Learn to let bygones be bygones once you find yourself. It is not worth losing sleep over people who do not value you. Love yourself and find yourself. You are the price. Rise to the occasion by living your life.